Deeper Lessons

I just posted the most recent episode of the Epic Mind Body Spirit Podcast. This one is just me (no guest), and it’s a short one. I share some thoughts about taking a deeper look at what we believe we need to change within ourselves. 

I think this is important because sometimes we struggle with making changes because we’re not really clear about why we should be making the change. I’m not a patient person and in this podcast I share how learning more patience is really about me being more willing to get into the flow of the present moment and how my lack of patience is also an asset for me.

Below is a rough transcript of part of my discussion. Enjoy!

So let’s talk about accepting parts of ourselves we may see (or others tell us) are our faults and about deeper lessons we can learn from doing that.

Of course there is value in change, but there’s often beauty in that part of us we think we should change and the change we need to make is sometimes not what we appears on the surface. 

Sometimes it’s less about changing ourselves and more about a deeper lesson and how we can add to or modify our natural tendencies to make life better.

So here’s an example of what I mean.

I’m not and may never ever be a patient person, but I have become more so and doing so has reduced or eliminated stress for me and enabled me to be a kinder person.

I’ve also learned that my lack of patience has served me well.

I’m willing to take action sooner than others with more patience.

My not waiting can make me a great advocate for myself and others and get me to take positive action.

Change is good. My learning to gain some patience is good but the real lesson for me has been to be sensitive to timing, and being willing to accept when it’s not the right time to act. 

The more I am in alignment with the highest good of any situation, the more I know when it’s time to act and when it’s not and that’s when learning to have a little patience is a good thing for me.

It’s about being willing to see that patience is the right play in a particular moment. 

You know, there’s no point in getting frustrated waiting in traffic, because it won’t make it move any faster. Doing a few deep breaths, and accepting the moment is going to reduce my stress.

Both of my parents lived to be old, and in their later years they walked very slowly. Walking by their side forced me to slow down when I walked with them. It was more than just slowing my walking speed, it was being less rushed in the moment so I could make them feel that there was nothing wrong with their speed, that they were doing great, and that I had time for them.

Being more patient with them was a great act of love from me. Being patient with them meant being kind.

Also being sensitive to my own struggle in dealing with something can mean giving myself time – being patient with myself. Grieving takes time and I learned to channel some of the patience I gained from them to myself as I grieved the loss of them.

So for me, this surface lesson about becoming a more patient person, is really another aspect of being aware of and acknowledging the present moment and contributing my best in the moment. 

When the moment calls for my impulsive impatient nature, I’m golden. When it calls for me to go more slowly,  gently … to be a little patient, then it’s time for me to call on my other strengths to rally and find my capacity to learn a bit more about being patient. 

In the case of my parents, I had lots of both kind of moments. There were times where I was the much needed catalyst for action and my unwillingness to wait was a positive motivator for action on their behalf. Other times, my compassion and love for them enabled me to find a way to slow down, and give them the time and energy they needed from me.

If you are struggling to change some part of yourself, dig a little deeper. Ask yourself why you feel you need to change and be open to the answer.

Learning to meditate for even a couple of minutes a day can help you to be still with your thoughts and help you to understand and accept yourself more completely.

Accepting yourself doesn’t mean there’s no value in change. Instead, it helps you to put your energy into how to shift your thinking and make changes for maximal effect.

Website Feng Shui

My website needed a redo. It’s been years since my last major update and while I was kind of into the simple thing then, I’ve been feeling like I needed something prettier. Something that looked a bit more 2019. I mean it wasn’t exactly 1990s angelfire (anyone old enough to remember those sites), but it was in serious need of a refresh.

So it is refreshed and I LOVE it. I really love it. I hope you will too. If you take a peek, let me know what you think www.epicmeditations.com.

I’ve also decided to start building an email list. To get it rolling, I’m providing Quiet Moment, one of my guided meditations when you sign up. It’s less than 3 minutes and is a great way to quickly clear and calm your mind. Check it out here.

It’s summer here in North America. I’m headed back outside. Have a beautiful day!

Mindspring 2.0 is live

There is finally a Mindspring 2.0.  I’ve updated my app and love it.  I hope you do too.  It’s free and available in the app store: Mindspring.  I’ve added new tracks, new features and given it a fresh new look. I completely rebuilt it, so all the code is now current and I plan to keep adding to it.

 

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Changing Your Energy

Want to improve your life? Check out this free podcast with Karen Rauch Carter and learn how shifting your energy can make significant changes in your life.  In addition to the iTunes webpage, you can also stream or download if from my website.

There are many ways to change your energy. Start with things you may already do like taking a warm bath to relax, going for a walk, doing something that makes you joyfully laugh. Do all of these things with the intention of shifting your energy to align with that inner voice inside of you. Be conscious of wanting to become more mindful, of wanting to fully experience the present and wanting to feel aligned with that inner voice inside of you.  You can also stop and take 3 deep breaths and clear your mind. You can meditate, use Feng Shui, receive Reiki. There are many ways to do this. The key is to be be willing and then bring that intention into your life in many ordinary things that you do. Be mindful of what you are doing at any given time, be clear about your desires and intentions, be open to seeing things differently and you’ll experience positive change.

For more help, check out the various posts on my FaceBook page including the free videos. You can also visit my webpage  for free podcasts and if you have an iPhone, iPad or iPod touch you can download my free app called Mindspring. All of these things can help you to quiet your mind, making it easier for you to recognize the gentle nudging your inner self is giving you all the time. Shifting your energy to become more consistently sensitive to this, makes life unfold even more joyfully and fully.

When I get distracted away from this practice, my life gets harder. Things don’t work out as well, I don’t feel as well, and I feel less supported. When I get back into the practice of quieting my mind and shifting my energy back to a receptive, positive place, my life gets better. Things are easier, I feel supported, energetic and what I want falls easily into place.  It all starts with intention. Decide you want to change the way you think and your willingness to change will guide you to the means to do so.

Enjoy!

Copyright © 2014, Lisa Wagner

Wandering back to the land of lost blogs

Wow! It’s been a while since I was here. I need to fix that. Some 2013 news, I rebooted my Epic Mind, Body & Spirit podcast this fall and am excited about a guest I have joining me later this month. I also published my first app last spring. It’s called Mindspring and works on all Apple mobile products (iPhone, iPad, iPod touch). I also moved and made a few other life changes.

To anyone finding their way here, I wish you lots of health, love and laughter in 2014 as well as everything good your heart desires.

Copyright © 2014, Lisa Wagner

Releasing Resentment

Do you ever feel stuck? How about frustrated? Do you wonder why it just drives you nuts when someone does something you think they should not do or why you hold on to really old anger? The root of these feelings could be resentment.

Resentment comes in many forms, though it is usually deeper than we consciously acknowledge. It can be tempting to look at resentment very superficially. For example, others have something you wish you had and you resent them for it. The problem with this thinking is that it doesn’t really get at the root of the resentment. The problem isn’t really your wishing you had something that someone else has, the real problem is your feelings of deprivation, feelings regarding what you do or don’t deserve, fear or pain that holds you back and keeps you from getting what you want in life etc.

Every emotional wound we do not heal can be fertile ground for resentment. Sometimes the biggest obstacle to really healing and letting go of the wound is that we’re afraid that somehow if we do so, we are letting the person that hurt us off the hook. It’s as if we keep the wound tender and decide that it really can’t heal completely until the person that hurt us changes, or does something for us to make up for what was done in the past. The problem with this thinking is that it nearly guarantees we stay wounded.

Resentment weighs us down. Resentment can make us bitter, give us an unhelpful edge, and blind us to the love and beauty that surrounds us. Releasing any amount of resentment can make us feel lighter and frees us to pursue what matters most to us. There are many tools that can help us achieve this release including writing in a journal, therapy and doing some kind of volunteer work. Freely giving of ourselves to others can inspire a sense of gratitude and well being that can help loosen the grip of resentment. Meditation can also be useful in helping to identify why we are holding on to the resentment and various images of release can help to affirm an actual release.

For more help with this, check out my guided meditation Releasing Resentment, available from my CD Epic Meditations. It takes you on a journey to release the resentment you have been carrying with you. It is from my CD Epic Meditations, available on iTunes and Amazon. A newly developed extended version is also available on www.NatureMusicDownload.com. This version includes beautiful background music to enhance the meditation experience.

Copyright © 2009, Lisa Wagner

Chakra Meditations

The Seven Chakras are energy centers located along the center of our bodies. When they are open, and the energy flow is in balance we feel clear, secure, and grounded. We are fully aware of the mind, body spirit connection and there is a sense of ease in how we relate to the world. The key words here are flow and balance. If the energy is not flowing, and the chakras are out of balance, then we are more likely to feel uncomfortable emotions and struggle with our self expression and access to our intuition. We can also feel tired – not necessarily sleepy, but an overall lack of energy as if our personal gas tank is low on fuel.

This chakra balance is similar to the maintenance of our body chemistry. When we are strong and healthy, our bodies can compensate more easily for our lack of physical care. They can maintain this complicated and delicate balance even when we don’t get enough sleep, eat the wrong foods, etc. We reach a point though where this neglect can take it’s toll and we have to make changes in our self-care and lifestyle, as well as seek the help of healthcare professionals and healers to help the struggling parts of our body work the way they are supposed to work.

This is also true for our chakras. If one or more of them are closed or if there is too much or too little energy flowing from one or more of them, then we are out of balance. Eventually this too can take its toll and the symptoms of chakra imbalance can be physical, emotional, or mental. There are many ways to open and balance the chakras. These methods can include almost anything that nurtures our mind, body and spirit. There are also ways to more directly balance the chakras that include using crystals, reiki, sound therapy, and meditation. Meditation can be a powerful tool in helping us to strengthen and balance our mind, body, spirit connection, and our energy balance can especially benefit from chakra meditations.

There are many variations on chakra meditations that include imagining the energy centers as vortexes, spirals, wheels and imagining the energy moving in one direction and then another. The one thing that is generally consistent is the use of color and the association of specific color to each chakra. I like to imagine colored light flowing into my body at the point where the chakra is located, and I believe it is most helpful to start with the first chakra and work up the body towards the head. As the light enters each part of my body, I feel a sense of renewal and balance.

Below is a list of the seven chakras, including the color associated with it, some key words and its location to help you get started on developing your own chakra meditations.

1. Root Chakra (red) – survival and grounding, base of the spine
2. Sacrum Chakra (orange) – stability and self confidence, lower belly
3. Solar Plexus Chakra (yellow) – will and determination, stomach
4. Heart Chakra (green) – wisdom and compassion, center of chest
5. Throat Chakra (blue) – creativity and intuition, base of throat
6. Third Eye Chakra (indigo) – concentration and self-mastery, between eye brows
7. Crown Chakra (violet) – feeling of connection and bliss, top of head

If you’d like some additional help using meditation to balance your chakras, you can check out my guided meditation titled “Rejuvenate.” It uses the color imagery of the seven chakras to help you feel rejuvenated and replenished. It’s from my CD Epic Meditations, available on iTunes and Amazon. A newly developed extended version is also available on www.NatureMusicDownload.com. This version includes beautiful background music to enhance the meditation experience.

Copyright © 2009, Lisa Wagner

Exhale Your Stress

Deep breathing is often the fastest, easiest way to get immediate relief from stress. You can do it anytime, anywhere. When you find yourself feeling anxious, scared, angry, frustrated or just generally stressed out, try taking a few deep breaths.

To begin, breathe in slowly and deeply gently pushing your stomach forward.  You want to breathe in from your diaphragm which is below your chest. As the air comes in, you’ll feel your chest swell. Hold the breath for a few seconds, then slowly release the breath. If you can, breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. If you can’t do this, that’s okay, just breathe in and out in whatever way is comfortable for you. Give yourself several seconds to fully release the breath and to breathe normally a few times, then take in your next deep breath. If possible, do three deep breaths. If you are able, five deep breaths can be even better.

Taking a minute to focus on your breathing and taking in the deep breaths is very powerful. You will feel your breathing slowing down and you will get calmer. If you can, stop whatever you are doing and bring all of your attention to your breathing. Even if you must continue with whatever you are doing and your attention is divided, try the deep breathing anyway. It can still make a huge difference.

Perhaps, the best thing about this breathing technique is that it works immediately and the more you do it, the more effective it becomes. Not only will the sense of peace come more easily and quickly, but it will last longer. You’ll also find that sometimes you can even calm yourself with just one deep breath. In the middle of a difficult situation or conversation, you’ll be able to use deep breathing to bring you back to a more centered and relaxed place. As soon as you notice that you’re starting to feel irritated or stressed, take a breath.

Deep breathing is a great way to start meditation. It’s also a good way to transition from one activity to another. It clears your head and helps you to change your focus. Even when you aren’t feeling stressed, it can be helpful to take a minute once or twice throughout the day and just take a few deep breaths.

Copyright © 2009, Lisa Wagner