Deeper Lessons

I just posted the most recent episode of the Epic Mind Body Spirit Podcast. This one is just me (no guest), and it’s a short one. I share some thoughts about taking a deeper look at what we believe we need to change within ourselves. 

I think this is important because sometimes we struggle with making changes because we’re not really clear about why we should be making the change. I’m not a patient person and in this podcast I share how learning more patience is really about me being more willing to get into the flow of the present moment and how my lack of patience is also an asset for me.

Below is a rough transcript of part of my discussion. Enjoy!

So let’s talk about accepting parts of ourselves we may see (or others tell us) are our faults and about deeper lessons we can learn from doing that.

Of course there is value in change, but there’s often beauty in that part of us we think we should change and the change we need to make is sometimes not what we appears on the surface. 

Sometimes it’s less about changing ourselves and more about a deeper lesson and how we can add to or modify our natural tendencies to make life better.

So here’s an example of what I mean.

I’m not and may never ever be a patient person, but I have become more so and doing so has reduced or eliminated stress for me and enabled me to be a kinder person.

I’ve also learned that my lack of patience has served me well.

I’m willing to take action sooner than others with more patience.

My not waiting can make me a great advocate for myself and others and get me to take positive action.

Change is good. My learning to gain some patience is good but the real lesson for me has been to be sensitive to timing, and being willing to accept when it’s not the right time to act. 

The more I am in alignment with the highest good of any situation, the more I know when it’s time to act and when it’s not and that’s when learning to have a little patience is a good thing for me.

It’s about being willing to see that patience is the right play in a particular moment. 

You know, there’s no point in getting frustrated waiting in traffic, because it won’t make it move any faster. Doing a few deep breaths, and accepting the moment is going to reduce my stress.

Both of my parents lived to be old, and in their later years they walked very slowly. Walking by their side forced me to slow down when I walked with them. It was more than just slowing my walking speed, it was being less rushed in the moment so I could make them feel that there was nothing wrong with their speed, that they were doing great, and that I had time for them.

Being more patient with them was a great act of love from me. Being patient with them meant being kind.

Also being sensitive to my own struggle in dealing with something can mean giving myself time – being patient with myself. Grieving takes time and I learned to channel some of the patience I gained from them to myself as I grieved the loss of them.

So for me, this surface lesson about becoming a more patient person, is really another aspect of being aware of and acknowledging the present moment and contributing my best in the moment. 

When the moment calls for my impulsive impatient nature, I’m golden. When it calls for me to go more slowly,  gently … to be a little patient, then it’s time for me to call on my other strengths to rally and find my capacity to learn a bit more about being patient. 

In the case of my parents, I had lots of both kind of moments. There were times where I was the much needed catalyst for action and my unwillingness to wait was a positive motivator for action on their behalf. Other times, my compassion and love for them enabled me to find a way to slow down, and give them the time and energy they needed from me.

If you are struggling to change some part of yourself, dig a little deeper. Ask yourself why you feel you need to change and be open to the answer.

Learning to meditate for even a couple of minutes a day can help you to be still with your thoughts and help you to understand and accept yourself more completely.

Accepting yourself doesn’t mean there’s no value in change. Instead, it helps you to put your energy into how to shift your thinking and make changes for maximal effect.

There is no order of difficulty in miracles

Continuing with A Course in Miracles …

“There is no order of difficulty in miracles. One is not ‘harder’ or ‘bigger; than another. They are all the same. All expressions of love are maximal.”

Accepting this first Principle of Miracles from page one of the course is crucial to living a miraculous life. Is it possible that some miracles are harder for God than others? This may sound like a ridiculous question, but it is an important one to answer if we want peace and joy to flow freely through out lives.

Every time we don’t take something to God, we are limiting His power in our lives. When we do not pray because we believe that something is not important enough to pray about or because we feel hopeless, we don’t give God a chance. When we choose not to pray because the issue is “big” and we’re afraid we may not like God’s answer, we are insisting that we know more than God does. It is our beliefs and fears that limit miracles.

As long as we are willing to stay stuck in seeing God as simply the granter of wishes, rather than the unlimited power of love that He is, we will continue to believe some miracles are more difficult than others. They aren’t. Living a miraculous life is not about asking God to intervene in our lives to make specific things happen, it’s about inviting God in to every part of our lives and being willing to see things differently. Experiencing miracles happens when we surrender our attachments to the way we believe things should be, and become willing to see things as God would have us see them. It’s not about deciding if something is too big or small for God to help. It’s about asking for God’s help all of the time, and choosing to align ourselves with His presence in our lives every day.

The course teaches us not to focus on how possible or impossible something may seem to be in this world. Rather, we are taught that when we align ourselves with God, everything is possible. Pain that you thought would never go away can be released. Relationships that you thought could never change can be transformed. We get stuck thinking that a miracle is like getting what we want for Christmas, rather than seeing love where we thought it could not exist.

Call to mind your most limiting and damaging belief about yourself. Now, suppose God was able to heal this place inside of you, would you let Him? Which is more likely, that He hasn’t known how to heal you or that you haven’t been willing to believe that He can?

Daily Meditation: Today I will ask God to guide me in every moment, and I will allow miracles to flow freely in my life. With God, all things are possible.

Copyright © 2008, Lisa Wagner

Epic blog

Welcome to the Epic Meditations blog.  Epic Meditations is the name of my CD of 11 guided meditations, each with a very specific purpose. They all begin and end with a short piece of music and some deep breaths.  This helps to guide you into and out of the meditation.  Here’s a description of each meditation:

Rejuvenate uses the color imagery of the seven chakras to help you feel rejuvenated and replenished.

Releasing Resentment can help anyone that is ready and willing to release resentment. It can be particularly helpful in dealing with old anger and frustration that has been carried for years.

Knowing Your Truth guides you to create a moment of truth. This practice is particularly helpful in dealing with situations or issues where you feel conflicted or confused. Creating a private moment of truth can bring clarity to any situation, and provide the basis for deeper insight.

Setting an Intention walks you through the process of identifying and choosing intentions. Holding a clear intention is a powerful tool in creating your best life.

Acting From Love helps you to uncover the most loving action available in any situation. It delves into some of the differences between acting out of love versus guilt or fear, and helps you to understand the power of honoring the most loving action.

Owning Your Choice is intended to help you feel empowered by acknowledging and understanding the presence of choice.

Quieting Your Mind will guide you to take a moment and quiet your mind.

Sending Love guides you to send love to people you care about, particularly when they are in need. This practice benefits the recipient of the loving energy as well as fills you with a feeling of peace.

Affirming Peace is a short meditation designed to bring you back to a state of peace through a series of affirmations.

Affirming Joy is a short meditation that helps you to return to a more joyful place through a series of affirmations.

Breathing guides you through a series of 5 deep breaths. Learning to slowly and gently take deep breaths is a powerful tool in stress reduction. Creating a peaceful moment can help anyone to diffuse anger, relieve stress, and find meaningful focus.