Releasing Resentment

Do you ever feel stuck? How about frustrated? Do you wonder why it just drives you nuts when someone does something you think they should not do or why you hold on to really old anger? The root of these feelings could be resentment.

Resentment comes in many forms, though it is usually deeper than we consciously acknowledge. It can be tempting to look at resentment very superficially. For example, others have something you wish you had and you resent them for it. The problem with this thinking is that it doesn’t really get at the root of the resentment. The problem isn’t really your wishing you had something that someone else has, the real problem is your feelings of deprivation, feelings regarding what you do or don’t deserve, fear or pain that holds you back and keeps you from getting what you want in life etc.

Every emotional wound we do not heal can be fertile ground for resentment. Sometimes the biggest obstacle to really healing and letting go of the wound is that we’re afraid that somehow if we do so, we are letting the person that hurt us off the hook. It’s as if we keep the wound tender and decide that it really can’t heal completely until the person that hurt us changes, or does something for us to make up for what was done in the past. The problem with this thinking is that it nearly guarantees we stay wounded.

Resentment weighs us down. Resentment can make us bitter, give us an unhelpful edge, and blind us to the love and beauty that surrounds us. Releasing any amount of resentment can make us feel lighter and frees us to pursue what matters most to us. There are many tools that can help us achieve this release including writing in a journal, therapy and doing some kind of volunteer work. Freely giving of ourselves to others can inspire a sense of gratitude and well being that can help loosen the grip of resentment. Meditation can also be useful in helping to identify why we are holding on to the resentment and various images of release can help to affirm an actual release.

For more help with this, check out my guided meditation Releasing Resentment, available from my CD Epic Meditations. It takes you on a journey to release the resentment you have been carrying with you. It is from my CD Epic Meditations, available on iTunes and Amazon. A newly developed extended version is also available on www.NatureMusicDownload.com. This version includes beautiful background music to enhance the meditation experience.

Copyright © 2009, Lisa Wagner

Chakra Meditations

The Seven Chakras are energy centers located along the center of our bodies. When they are open, and the energy flow is in balance we feel clear, secure, and grounded. We are fully aware of the mind, body spirit connection and there is a sense of ease in how we relate to the world. The key words here are flow and balance. If the energy is not flowing, and the chakras are out of balance, then we are more likely to feel uncomfortable emotions and struggle with our self expression and access to our intuition. We can also feel tired – not necessarily sleepy, but an overall lack of energy as if our personal gas tank is low on fuel.

This chakra balance is similar to the maintenance of our body chemistry. When we are strong and healthy, our bodies can compensate more easily for our lack of physical care. They can maintain this complicated and delicate balance even when we don’t get enough sleep, eat the wrong foods, etc. We reach a point though where this neglect can take it’s toll and we have to make changes in our self-care and lifestyle, as well as seek the help of healthcare professionals and healers to help the struggling parts of our body work the way they are supposed to work.

This is also true for our chakras. If one or more of them are closed or if there is too much or too little energy flowing from one or more of them, then we are out of balance. Eventually this too can take its toll and the symptoms of chakra imbalance can be physical, emotional, or mental. There are many ways to open and balance the chakras. These methods can include almost anything that nurtures our mind, body and spirit. There are also ways to more directly balance the chakras that include using crystals, reiki, sound therapy, and meditation. Meditation can be a powerful tool in helping us to strengthen and balance our mind, body, spirit connection, and our energy balance can especially benefit from chakra meditations.

There are many variations on chakra meditations that include imagining the energy centers as vortexes, spirals, wheels and imagining the energy moving in one direction and then another. The one thing that is generally consistent is the use of color and the association of specific color to each chakra. I like to imagine colored light flowing into my body at the point where the chakra is located, and I believe it is most helpful to start with the first chakra and work up the body towards the head. As the light enters each part of my body, I feel a sense of renewal and balance.

Below is a list of the seven chakras, including the color associated with it, some key words and its location to help you get started on developing your own chakra meditations.

1. Root Chakra (red) – survival and grounding, base of the spine
2. Sacrum Chakra (orange) – stability and self confidence, lower belly
3. Solar Plexus Chakra (yellow) – will and determination, stomach
4. Heart Chakra (green) – wisdom and compassion, center of chest
5. Throat Chakra (blue) – creativity and intuition, base of throat
6. Third Eye Chakra (indigo) – concentration and self-mastery, between eye brows
7. Crown Chakra (violet) – feeling of connection and bliss, top of head

If you’d like some additional help using meditation to balance your chakras, you can check out my guided meditation titled “Rejuvenate.” It uses the color imagery of the seven chakras to help you feel rejuvenated and replenished. It’s from my CD Epic Meditations, available on iTunes and Amazon. A newly developed extended version is also available on www.NatureMusicDownload.com. This version includes beautiful background music to enhance the meditation experience.

Copyright © 2009, Lisa Wagner

Exhale Your Stress

Deep breathing is often the fastest, easiest way to get immediate relief from stress. You can do it anytime, anywhere. When you find yourself feeling anxious, scared, angry, frustrated or just generally stressed out, try taking a few deep breaths.

To begin, breathe in slowly and deeply gently pushing your stomach forward.  You want to breathe in from your diaphragm which is below your chest. As the air comes in, you’ll feel your chest swell. Hold the breath for a few seconds, then slowly release the breath. If you can, breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. If you can’t do this, that’s okay, just breathe in and out in whatever way is comfortable for you. Give yourself several seconds to fully release the breath and to breathe normally a few times, then take in your next deep breath. If possible, do three deep breaths. If you are able, five deep breaths can be even better.

Taking a minute to focus on your breathing and taking in the deep breaths is very powerful. You will feel your breathing slowing down and you will get calmer. If you can, stop whatever you are doing and bring all of your attention to your breathing. Even if you must continue with whatever you are doing and your attention is divided, try the deep breathing anyway. It can still make a huge difference.

Perhaps, the best thing about this breathing technique is that it works immediately and the more you do it, the more effective it becomes. Not only will the sense of peace come more easily and quickly, but it will last longer. You’ll also find that sometimes you can even calm yourself with just one deep breath. In the middle of a difficult situation or conversation, you’ll be able to use deep breathing to bring you back to a more centered and relaxed place. As soon as you notice that you’re starting to feel irritated or stressed, take a breath.

Deep breathing is a great way to start meditation. It’s also a good way to transition from one activity to another. It clears your head and helps you to change your focus. Even when you aren’t feeling stressed, it can be helpful to take a minute once or twice throughout the day and just take a few deep breaths.

Copyright © 2009, Lisa Wagner

Miracle Thought

If you are a student of A Course in Miracles, if you enjoy listening to Marianne Williamson, or you just want a five minute boost in living a more miraculous life – check out Marianne’s Miracle Thought podcast, new each weekday. It’s available through iTunes or get all the info from her site http://www.marianne.com.

It’s a joy and a blessing.

Form vs Content

This will be my last post in 2008, so I’d like to close out the year with one more entry on ACIM.

“Take not the form for content, for the form is but a means for content. And the frame is but a means to hold the picture up, so that it can be seen. A frame that hides the picture has no purpose. It cannot be a frame if it is what you see. Without the picture is the frame without its meaning. Its purpose is to set the picture off, and not itself.” (ACIM, page 485 of text)

The distinction the course makes between from and content is significant. This distinction has dramatically altered the effectiveness of prayer for me. For instance, instead of praying that God guide me to a new job, I pray that God guide me to find peace and joy through the work I do in the world. Sometimes this has led me to a new job, sometimes this has led me to experience my current job differently.

According to the teachings of ACIM, the content here is peace and joy, or you might say my desire and willingness to find peace and joy in my life. Whether or not I get a new job, the circumstances of my current job change, or simply something in my perception about my current job changes, is about form. The course teaches me to focus on content; to attach to content, but not form. Rather than decide on form and then ask God to deliver peace and happiness to me in a certain way, I cultivate my willingness for peace and joy, and then follow where my heart leads me. The same thing applies to relationships, how and where I live … to every aspect of my life.

This understanding of form and content has also opened me up to new possibilities, and deepened the gratitude I feel for the blessings in my life. By focusing on the content and recognizing that God knows what form is best for me, I have been able to embrace opportunities I would have never noticed before. I have also experienced a renewed appreciation for things already in my life. An instantaneous miracle occurs when I suddenly see and embrace what is in my life right now.

We may say that we believe in the power of love, a limitless God, an ever abundant Universe, and yet we limit our opportunities for fulfillment because we fixate on the form of how that fulfillment is supposed to look. No matter how perfect a particular form of your dreams may seem to you, consider the possibility that God holds even bigger dreams for you and knows exactly how to shape the form of that dream to bring you the most peace, joy & contentment.

Daily Meditation: Today I surrender all my desires to God, and open myself to His perfect gifts for me.

Copyright © 2008, Lisa Wagner

There is no order of difficulty in miracles

Continuing with A Course in Miracles …

“There is no order of difficulty in miracles. One is not ‘harder’ or ‘bigger; than another. They are all the same. All expressions of love are maximal.”

Accepting this first Principle of Miracles from page one of the course is crucial to living a miraculous life. Is it possible that some miracles are harder for God than others? This may sound like a ridiculous question, but it is an important one to answer if we want peace and joy to flow freely through out lives.

Every time we don’t take something to God, we are limiting His power in our lives. When we do not pray because we believe that something is not important enough to pray about or because we feel hopeless, we don’t give God a chance. When we choose not to pray because the issue is “big” and we’re afraid we may not like God’s answer, we are insisting that we know more than God does. It is our beliefs and fears that limit miracles.

As long as we are willing to stay stuck in seeing God as simply the granter of wishes, rather than the unlimited power of love that He is, we will continue to believe some miracles are more difficult than others. They aren’t. Living a miraculous life is not about asking God to intervene in our lives to make specific things happen, it’s about inviting God in to every part of our lives and being willing to see things differently. Experiencing miracles happens when we surrender our attachments to the way we believe things should be, and become willing to see things as God would have us see them. It’s not about deciding if something is too big or small for God to help. It’s about asking for God’s help all of the time, and choosing to align ourselves with His presence in our lives every day.

The course teaches us not to focus on how possible or impossible something may seem to be in this world. Rather, we are taught that when we align ourselves with God, everything is possible. Pain that you thought would never go away can be released. Relationships that you thought could never change can be transformed. We get stuck thinking that a miracle is like getting what we want for Christmas, rather than seeing love where we thought it could not exist.

Call to mind your most limiting and damaging belief about yourself. Now, suppose God was able to heal this place inside of you, would you let Him? Which is more likely, that He hasn’t known how to heal you or that you haven’t been willing to believe that He can?

Daily Meditation: Today I will ask God to guide me in every moment, and I will allow miracles to flow freely in my life. With God, all things are possible.

Copyright © 2008, Lisa Wagner

Shifting to Miracles with ACIM

These next few blog entries are going to focus on A Course in Miracles (ACIM).

ACIM is a set of three books – the text, a workbook of 365 meditations, and a manual for teachers containing questions & answers about ACIM.  To be a student of the course is simply to read these books.

What is a miracle?  ACIM teaches us that it is simply a shift in perception.  The key to making this shift is to be willing to see things differently.  When we are, and when we bring this willingness to God, then we can experience a radical shift in the way we see ourselves, and the world, that is truly miraculous.

The miracle may not change the circumstances in our lives or in a particular situation, and understanding this is important to allowing miracles to flow freely.  Living a miraculous life is not about manipulating the world of form.  It is about inviting God into our lives, and allowing Him to alter the way we see and relate to the world. By seeing the world and each other as God would have us see, we are not dependent upon circumstances.

One of my first experiences with this involved a troublesome relationship with a co-worker.  Nothing I seemed to do improved the relationship.  His resentment brought up anger in me, and I was convinced that it was really his problem, and I couldn’t help how he felt.  Then one day I decided that I was willing to see things differently.  I decided that I truly wanted a better relationship with this man, and though I didn’t know how to create it, I knew that God did.  I surrendered all of my judgements and perceptions to God, and asked Him to enter into the relationship.  I can’t explain what happened next, because outwardly nothing changed, though my whole experience with him was forever changed.  The bitterness was replaced by kindness, and we grew to genuinely enjoy each other. Within a few months he received an unexpected and exciting job opportunity, and left.

We parted as friends. Although on the surface nothing seemed to change, I know that my prayer and surrender shifted the way that I saw him, and created the space for friendship. Therein lies the miracle.  Once I surrendered my beliefs about the way things should be, and allowed God to be present, I made room for a miracle.

Daily Meditation:  Today I am willing to see as God would have me see.

Copyright © 2008, Lisa Wagner

The Oversoul

We live in succession, in division, in parts, in particles. Meantime within man is the soul of the whole; the wise silence; the universal beauty, to which every part and particle is equally related; the eternal ONE. And this deep power in which we exist, and whose beatitude is all accessible to us, is not only self-sufficing and perfect in every hour, but the act of seeing and the thing seeen, the seer and spectacle, the subject and the object, are one. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson
Excerpt from his essay:   The Oversoul

I’m Podcasting

My Epic Mind, Body & Spirit podcast is now available. The podcasts are free and you can listen to them from my site as well as iTunes. In my first episode I discuss my CD, Epic Meditations.

I just posted my second episode, on Lymph Drainage Therapy. This is the first part of a 3 part interview I did with Jan Ridinger, a licensed massage therapist and gifted healer. In this episode I talk with Jan about lymph drainage – an amazing therapy that unblocks the lymph system. In part 2 we discuss Reiki (Jan is a Reiki Master Teacher) and in part 3 we discuss the work Jan does with medical hypnosis.

You can check out these podcasts at my website:

www.epicmeditations.com/pods.html

As well as on iTunes under Lisa Wagner, or Epic Mind, Body & Spirit. It’s in the Health category. Click here to go to this podcast series in iTunes.

Stay tuned for more topics to help us improve our lives and strengthen the mind, body, spirit connection.